The Budget Experiment

 

For the month of April my hubby and I are trying a new approach to our budget.  As a way of trying to reduce my stress and make him more accountable for his spending (not that he’s unreasonable, but anything he bought caused me more stress) we have indirectly switched roles.

The idea is to live mostly off his income and “bank” mine for debt and savings.  Now he does not make enough to cover everything, so I still look after some bills.

I made a spreadsheet of all the automatic payments scheduled to come out of his account, and left an adjustable total for grocery shopping.   I will deposit $100 into his account from each of my pays to help with the adjustment.

The goal is to get him to check his account more regularly as he notoriously sits back and says “I didn’t spend anything therefore, there must be money in my account”.  I pretty much allocated every penny of his income and left it so that if he came in under budget, then that money was his to do with as he pleased.  I am hoping that incentive works.

So far I have felt a huge relief.  The first few days I was tempted to check the online banking to see what was happening, but then I stopped myself.  And now, almost half way through the month, I can feel the difference this has made.  Moving the financial ownership to Han Solo, and making it as easy for him as I possibly could, will hopefully turn into a win-win situation for us.  I no longer have the regular panic of balancing both accounts.

If all goes according to plan, we should have an extra $1000 this month.  Money that is needed in a few different areas right now!

For the time being our financial life is better.

What “radical” budget approaches have you tried? What worked?  What didn’t?

The Hiatus Continues…

Hello to my half dozen followers!

Just a quick note to let you know my eyes are totally effed up (home on sick leave – no reading for at least a week! Ack!) anyhow, this has been going on for about 2 weeks now so hopefully I am on the mend and will be back to blogging soon!

Trying to See the Forest for the Trees

It’s all becoming just a little bit overwhelming these days.

The lack of movement on our debt, the lack of movement on our savings and the pressing need for more money.

Currently the discussion is how to get achieve the more money scenario.  We are able to put away a few hundred dollars every month to savings or debt, but time is becoming a factor due to our darn septic field.  The contractor has offered to put it in for $8k and arrange payments from us for the remaining $8k.  Between tax returns, side hustles and scrimping, we might be able to scrap half of that together.  A measly $4k.  The worst part is that it’s NOT a measly $4k, it takes a lot of work to get to that for us!  It just feels measly because it’s a drop in the ocean.

So I think it’s time to bite the bullet and just get a 2nd job.  I’ve tried to resist, but with a new timeline pressure, I don’t think I can put it off any longer.

I just hope my baby remembers what I look like!  Because that’s the worst part about this, it feels like it’s my child that is one really making sacrifices here.

Which Way to the Way Ahead?

Budgeting seems like a fruitless task for my household.

We are careful with our spending.

We typically pay our bills on time.

We are only now just starting to have money left at the end of each pay.

And our new septic field quote has finally arrived.

It seems all forward momentum leads to steps back and we just continue running in place.

The septic field is going to cost $16,000.  We need $8,000 up front, and then can make arrangements for the additional $8k.

The *hope* (such a terrible way to pay for something eh?) is that between our tax returns, hubby’s side hustle and our puny savings, that we can pull off the first $8k

This is followed by the *hope* that hubby goes back to work in May like we expect and earns enough to pay the latter half off by the end of the summer.  Provided that works for the contractor.

I’m really not sure where to go from here.  How to get started, how to get moving, how to not hyper-ventilate from the weight and stress and the inability to plan or budget this project.

We’re treading water.  The same way we have been for more than a year.

Something has to give.

Septic Saga + Birthday Bash Budgets = Need Another Yard Sale!

Let’s take this equation one step at a time.

Septic Saga:

Well we have been assured that a quote really is on the way.  The guy doing it has agreed to some sort of payment plan where we pay for the materials up front and then work out a payment plan with him for the remaining cost (thereby avoiding the bank).  This is a huge relief for us as we can get this issue addressed in a timely manner.  Once the relief settled in, the next feeling that came was a slight panic about getting our savings in order to cover the difference.  Today at this moment, we could probably swing about $1k.  I suspect we need closer to $5k.  So we need to get a move on ASAP!  Between tax returns and home energy audit grants I conservatively guess we will have around $2k – $3k in the next month.  I think things are going to shape up okay.

Birthday Bashes:

May is going to be one festive month!  My husband, my child (1 year!), my sister-in-law (turning the big 4-0), a friend and her son (turning 40 and 1 respectively) and another friend.  So 4 big days really! Plus 2 others, not to mention the two other birthdays in April!  I roughly figure I need about $700 to cover the birthday celebrations.  Especially as hubby really lost out last year because I was overdue at the time!

How am I going to get all this money together?

Another Kijiji/Yard Sale? (UGH!):

Don’t get me wrong, this is a great way to score some extra cash quickly, plus it has worked out really well for us in the past.  The snag is, we’ve thinned out a lot of our stuff already.  Now I know it is recommended to go through all your things a second time anyway, the problem is, we found it a bit emotional the first time, I’m worried the “wounds” from the previous sale might still be a little too fresh to ask my hubby to do this again!

Nonetheless, I’ll have to try again anyway.  I think it might be time to make a real effort to sell my wedding dress.  I had originally hoped to donate it (I liked the idea of sending out my happy wedding day mojo out into the world for someone else to enjoy), but times are tight and I’m not sure that is the way to go anymore.

The only other major items of value that we may consider selling are our camping stuff.  My argument is that we used the stuff once in the last 3 years and now that we have a child we definitely won’t be using it anytime soon.  The snag is that it was such a good deal when we bought the stuff that it’s going to be hard to part with it.  It kind of reminds me of a “How I Met Your Mother” episode where Lily makes Robin delete Don’s phone number.  The argument was that deleting the number was like ruling out that part of you for the future and the camping gear is the same thing.  Realistically we won’t use it, and by the time we reach that stage again, we’ll need something bigger anyway.  But closing the door on that ‘possibility’ is a little tough.

Stay tuned for a potential budget to help reach our goals without anyone’s birthday gifts getting cheaped out on!

Preoccupation much?

The preoccupation is becoming a little much.  So much so, that I find myself becoming obsessive with other things just to take my mind off money.

This is not all bad.

The last time I had a major preoccupation in my life was when I was writing my master’s thesis and planning my wedding.  What did I do?  I flaked out on my couch for hours a day reading the Twilight books repeatedly.  I think I read all four books 5 times back to back that summer.  Surprisingly I physically become nauseous if I try to read them now.

Last month I became quite determined to run the Bluenose half marathon in May.  Then it was starting the Hunger Games trilogy (thank goodness those books are short! I accept all judgment regarding my tween-lit love!).

My point?  My distraction from my finances last month actually led to money being left in my account at the end of the month.  It was slightly odd and amazing at the same time.  It’s been so long since that happened!  Well, there’s always some money, but this time it was almost $200.  So for me, a distraction was likely helpful.  Granted my distractions are typically things that don’t cost me anything, if I distracted myself with shopping that would be a problem!  I can whole heartedly tell you that I am happier for not racking my brain to try and find a way to make or save more money.

We had a big car bill last month which came out of our savings account so that $200 will go towards replenishing that account.

Our established credit card credit was partially used towards a course in January and recently towards insulating our basement.  I will give an update on that project soon!

Nothing overly helpful or insightful in this post.  Simply an end to my recent hiatus and an update on how I am doing.

Stay tuned for fancy-schmancy home project posts, hopefully coming soon!

Tag Game from the Daily Money Shot

Here are the questions and my answers from the Daily Money Shot!

  1. What is the one item you like to splurge on?

A cute dress.

  1. Do you buy books or use the library? Why?

Typically library, reformed chapters-a-holic. For financial reasons, not sentimental.  Plus I have an e-reader and it is just so much easier to borrow e-books then to bother buying them.  I can’t help but feel they are over priced!

  1. If you were to lose everything tomorrow, what is your back-up plan?

Sell everything, get a cheap apartment or hope my parents take pity and let us move into their basement…sorry Mum and Dad!

 

  1. If you were to win the lottery tomorrow, what would you do with the money?

Give money to the hospital where I gave birth to my child (ear marking some of the money for new super comfortable chairs for their prenatal classes!)

Buy the chunk of land in the middle of my little town that used to be a gas station and now is just a bunch of cement with take out trucks sitting in it.  Our town is pretty, and this thing in the center of town is ugly….I would buy the land and fix it up into a beautiful green space and park for everyone to enjoy!

Trust funds for everyone I know and their kids (or future kids)

Renovate my house

Buy a new car

Buy my parents a place in the sun

This could go on and on….

  1. Who would win in a fight—Wayne or Garth?

Garth – he’s scrappy, plus Wayne’s too nice to be effective in a fight

  1. If you could eat one crayon color, which one would it be?

The white one, I would try to tell myself that there was less dye in it

  1. What is your opinion on dogs wearing coats?

Tacky, cheesy unless it’s actually necessary….

  1. How do you plan to teach your kids about money?

This plan changes every week – stay tuned…

  1. What is one hidden talent that you have? Would you exploit it for money if you had to?

No hidden talents! Not sure I have anything to exploit for money short of my education…

  1. Do you approve of the designated hitter position?

I broke up with baseball after the second strike in the 90’s I don’t care about designated hitters.

  1. Which president not currently on money do you think belongs on money? Which denomination would you put him on?

Meh, I’m Canadian, no opinion here